When a loved one passes away

There comes a time in a life, no matter whom you are..age, class, race, religion, where you should just stop and pause...look around and thank god that we have our loved ones, the ones that mean the world and more to us. The thing is, we need to remember that nothing in life is guaranteed, at at any day, any moment, or time, they could pass into the night...and your chance to appreciate them, hug them, love them and spend quality time with them is gone...gone until you meet up again in another life. We need to see just how lucky we are to have them. Sometimes in life we need to give up on everything that makes us selfish towards others, no matter how hard that may be or seem....you should do it for the well being of them, and even for the well being of yourself. Sometimes to give somebody a better quality of life we have to give up something that is deemed a luxury, but for a loved one, are they or are they not, the greatest gift of all? 

Life can be a total bitch sometimes, trust me i would know..loosing people you love is never easy, and god always seems to want to pick the moment we are at our weakest the throw us in at the deep end without a paddle. It's about learning to prepare yourself for moments such as this. It's not going to take the pain away, by no means should it, everyone is aloud to grieve it is a right, but, if we can learn to detach our innermost feelings then when it comes to saying goodbye, when it comes to waving that loved one off to the next life, it will hopefully, in someway ease the gut wrenching pain you are feeling at the loss of this soul.

I know that there a moments in life where you will go though thinking you are completely dependant on one person..you consider them 'your heart'...i once heard a quote...

'Don't make someone your everything, because when they are gone, you have nothing'

this is true, but when you come to a crossroad in life and you have to choose between leaving your 'heart' behind and going with the path in which you are sure is your destiny, then sometimes leaving a little of yourself behind is a sacrifice worth considering, sometimes in the death of a loved one, you find it hard to leave the place in which they were laid to rest...but would they want that? for you to be tied up?  No...
Look back and think....'I've given all of the love i could give but now it's my turn to go out a live my life' it's ok to want to do that... 
take that leap of faith
spread your wings
and learn how to fly
'Don't go telling me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon'